I’d like to introduce you to this lady to my right. She’s has a Phd. She’s RAD as Fuck! She’s kind, patient, empathetic, genuine, accepting, and has the most beautifully forgiving soul I have ever come across. This picture speaks much different to who were to each other 15 years ago!
I called her every name in the book: a bitch, a slut, a whore. The girl always looking for attention. Mocking, teasing, name calling, spreading rumors, gossiping…all behind her back. Mean girl behavior at its finest, attempting to fly under the radar; only igniting the things left unsaid.
Two girls duking it out for territory amongst social groups. We didn’t even know each other, yet despised the other’s existence. Two girls, unwilling to accept the other’s differences. Jealousy derived from irrational thoughts and complete misperceptions. Both attempting to manipulate the other’s social standing and reputation…but based on what?
Ladies, ladies, ladies….we have one behavior that will burn us over and over again; assumption!!! At that time, for me, I will acknowledge a lack of confidence, self love, trust, acceptance, and understanding that I just don’t always get what I want.
But shit, think of how all that ugly behavior would have turned out if we just talked it out.
It’s time that we begin emphasizing the things we have in common and the lessons we can learn from one another, versus focusing on our differences and using those as fuel to target with negativity. I think we need more vulnerability and authenticity in our world, to really allow us to connect to one another. At the end of the day, it’s our human experience that connects us.
The more we allow technology, social media, social standing, different view points, and simply not getting what we fucking want, it takes away opportunity to connect. It separates us, blinds us, segregates us from being able to find likemindedness; which we are all capable of having.
Look at where we are now. Two grown women. In the same profession, living a healthier life, supporting one another through each other’s divorces, traveling across the country to share time, emotional support through loss….It’s funny how our ideals really mean nothing, if you just give a person a chance.
A lesson that we need to role model for others and our kids is that whoever we were yesterday does not mean thats who we are today. We are never the same. And, that’s okay. Don’t get stuck…change is what helps u